You Can Only Abuse the Feminine for So Long…

You Can Only Abuse the Feminine for So Long…

You can only abuse the feminine for so long.

She is wise, she is forgiving, she is open-hearted, she is concerned for the greater good, she can see the larger vision, she knows what may happen (her intuition is strong), she is a great leader, she is compassionate, she is allowing, she is strong.

But she cannot be abused and taken for granted forever.

Her compassionate energy has an expiration date.

And she will explode.

Abuse the earth too long, she will erupt.

Abuse the wisdom keepers for too long, they will cease to provide their wisdom.

Abuse the feminine aspects of a partner for too long, they will withdraw.

The world needs the feminine.

Without it, we don’t exist.

None of us.

The masculine energy on this earth (most specifically in Western cultures) is extremely out of balance and must come back into alignment.

Everyone and everything that has been belittled, pushed aside, or seen as not as important has the key to this balance.

Nature, contemplation, personal growth, meditation, indigenous, non-binary (two-spirits), women, creativity, philosophers, artists, and anyone who truly understands how to have a healthy relationship with themselves, others, and the world around them.

The masculine and feminine energies exist in every one of us, no matter our gender, as well as everything in our world.

The masculine energy (“doing,” business, industry, academia, etc.) is not more important to our existence on this planet, and never has been.

Human ego born from the idea that the feminine can be controlled (industry, inventions, emotions, relationships, pesticides, systems based on submission and control) has allowed the masculine energies to run wild. The belief being that “survival” depends on who can control the most resources, people, emotions, etc. The truth is we are interdependent. Control and domination do not equal safety and survival. Imbalance always rights itself and the feminine is rising.

And her patience has an expiration date.

It’s Time to Honor the Feminine- On the Inside and Outside

It’s Time to Honor the Feminine- On the Inside and Outside

It is long past time to honor the keepers of the feminine for all they have given us. Mother Earth needs our love and gratitude. Women need our love and honor, indigenous groups deserve our gratitude and respect.

The Western world has gotten caught in a pattern of solely acknowledging and recognizing the worth in what we can see and measure, the things that someone or something are “doing.”

It is far past time to acknowledge the ways in which so many living things have been “being,” and all of the emotional and spiritual resources they have provided us in addition to the physical.

It is time to start thinking beyond just our five senses and remember that the whole of the human experience on earth includes much more than that. The quality of: relationships, beauty, art, culture, love, empathy, care, holding space, positive energy, and integrity we embody and experience from others are core factors in determining the level of satisfaction we experience in our life on earth.

Why are we allowing them to be forgotten, suppressed, and shoved away, when they are such a huge piece of the human experience? No matter what we’ve been taught by an out of balance system that has encouraged “doing” at the expense of “being,” we CAN change the narrative.

We can bring things back to balance right now by committing to honor and respect the feminine in ourselves (whether we’re male, female, or other), as well as in all those who carry the torch for the forgotten side of all that exists.

It is past time to nurture, respect, and show love and gratitude to everything and everyone that enriches our lives through their “being,” as well to honor and recognize how much precious energy they are using.

Honor the earth keepers, space holders, highest good holders, the feminine side of each and every one of us, and the earth we walk upon—for they are not “less than” as our culture has continually made them out to be—but our salvation.

Your Time in the Cocoon is Uncomfortable, but Worth It.

Your Time in the Cocoon is Uncomfortable, but Worth It.

We all want to feel good, and we should strive to feel good—healthy, happy, healed, and thriving. But what happens when we’re not? It’s such an important topic that even the first chapter of my Holding Space book is all about “getting comfortable with being uncomfortable.”

The thing is, growth happens in the stages when we’re uncomfortable. It’s not comfortable for the caterpillar to be stuck in a dark cocoon thinking its life is over, but in that state it is growing— “becoming.”

I’m not saying it’s fun to be uncomfortable, or even that it doesn’t suck, but the struggle to get free from it builds our strength, resolve, hope, and faith—and these are things we desperately need to cultivate in our lives.

Here are a few ideas to help you navigate the darker times:

ALLOW yourself to be uncomfortable first of all, KNOW that it won’t last forever, FEEL the feelings-let them pass in their time, and don’t try too hard to rush the process. The good times are coming, and the uncomfortable times will push you to uncover/heal/notice/do/say/be what is necessary to bring you to the next level. If you need to, say to yourself or whoever may be going through things with you, “This sucks,” or “This sure is uncomfortable, isn’t it?” and let out a bit of the tension by just acknowledging the pain or struggle.

Wish you were already at the next level? Don’t we all. But if you try to rush past it and don’t allow yourself the time to be uncomfortable, the joy won’t get here any faster, and you may miss some things that you’ll have to come back to later.

Most importantly, don’t judge yourself or this time. It is normal. It is necessary. And it sucks. But YOU don’t suck. If you can give yourself grace, love yourself, and be willing to look into the gifts in the darkness, you will grow into that next version of yourself. You will not get sucked into the void if you learn not to fear it.

It’s been super intense out there lately, friends.

Allow whatever it is, be kind to yourself, and remember that nothing will change on the outer level until you’re willing to look at it on the inner level. The uncomfortable times force us to SEE—if we are willing to look.

(This post is something I wrote on Facebook years ago. I re-shared it recently and it got great feedback, so I wanted to share it over here).

But What About Our Arms?

But What About Our Arms?

As I was doing my meditation and body healing this morning, moving the clearing energy down my body, it got stuck right above my arms and did not want to move down them.

So I did some investigating. I had a conversation in my head with my arms and found out why there was an energy blockage there. Turns out- they feel forgotten about with all of the healing work I’ve been doing for myself. And guess what- they are absolutely right!

I’ve been doing a chakra healing program lately and when I was investigating why my arms felt left out, I realized that they were! If you’ve studied energy for even a little while, you most likely know that there are more than just the main seven chakras in our energy centers. However, it seems most general healing practices, while keeping their focus on the main seven, are leaving out the arms. It seems that almost all of the attention is given to the chakras along the central channel of our bodies, and then to our legs, as much attention is given to grounding to the earth and breathing down through our legs and feet. My arms felt as if they were an afterthought, an “extra” hanging out outside of the rest of the central trunk of the body.

As I thought about it, there really hasn’t been an energy healing program I’ve done that focused on, or even really talked about the arms. The arms do so much for us. They do the “heavy lifting” of our lives, they help us eat, reach, climb, hug, and create. Why is it, I wonder, that most of the general energy healing programs forget about them? My arms felt like they didn’t get any of the healing that the rest of my body was getting, and they were absolutely right. I felt bad that I had glossed over them so badly when they were every bit as important and worthy as the rest of my body.

I hadn’t done it on purpose, I was just following the healing programs as they were taught to me all throughout my life. And the healings have been incredible. So many things have been released, shifted, and strengthened through all of the different healing modalities and practitioners I have tried, but my arms were absolutely right, they had gotten the shaft for far too long.

So my question to the universe, and the healing community at large, is “What about our arms?” I promised my arms that I would write this blog to further investigate the dismissal of their worthiness in overall healing protocols, and even just the recognition that they are an important part of our body. They really felt slighted, and they had every reason to feel so.

So what gives? Can this be changed? Can we look at adding in some attention and healing to our arms in the general energetic center healing practices? They do so much for us.

It’s time to start focusing on and recognizing all of the things, people, and concepts that have been left behind for far too long. To integrate our wholeness, we must investigate, recognize, and love all of the things, people, and concepts that have been shunned or pushed to the wayside.

Energy

Energy

What if all of the turbulent weather we’ve been experiencing is a reflection of our collective turbulent thoughts and feelings?

Does that seem crazy?

If so, I ask you to kindly consider the reverse…

Everyone agrees that the moon affects the tides and our bodies are mostly water… therefore, the phases of the moon also affect us.

My point? EVERYTHING is connected, and EVERYTHING is made up of energy that can be manipulated in some way either by the thing itself, or by someone or something else.

I caught a portion of a Zoom yesterday with a quantum physicist and in the comments, someone mentioned the idea that perhaps the wild weather we’ve been getting is really just a reflection of our unsettled collective energy.

There is so much being purged in the human race, the earth, and everything on it at this time, that I can definitely see that being a possibility.

Today I took it even further and considered this…I have numerous afflictions from years of chronic stress (even being an avid meditator and personal growth guru – there has been a lot going on for me personally the last few years, and many different types of stress have been present- even energetic stress from certain environments).

Everyone knows that stress can turn into malfunctions in the body system. But have we considered that it’s energy that makes this so (remember qi and mana)?

If personal stress (an imbalance in our personal energy) can cause disruption in our individual body systems, doesn’t it make sense that collective stress can manifest in turbulent weather patterns (which are also fueled by energy)?

I’m not blaming or shaming anyone here, but rather want to continue to bring awareness to why I advocate that it is our duty as humans “be-ing,” to be responsible with our energy. Just because we don’t understand it or weren’t taught that it matters, doesn’t make it any less true that our energy affects not only us, but everyone and everything around us.

– Musings from my forthcoming book in progress about the importance of understanding and being aware of energy. *Full Disclaimer and heads up to budding personal growth authors- being a non-fiction personal growth author can be a slippery thing. You start going through a bunch of things personally, and all of a sudden, you’re guided to write a book on what you were only just beginning to piece together from different periods of your life. After that, get ready for the ride because you will end up going through a whole lot more to make sure you really understand what you didn’t even realize you were going to be writing/teaching about. The universe just wants to make sure you are fully embodied in the subject! :O

Re-publish of “Holding Space”- On its way soon!

Re-publish of “Holding Space”- On its way soon!

If you’re looking for my 2016 title, Holding Space- A Guide to Supporting Others While Remembering to Take Care of Yourself First, don’t worry- it won’t be out of print for long!

My contract with my publisher expired this month, and since I’ve published so many other titles through my own publishing company since then, it was time to bring it home!

Like any creative project that begins in the feminine energy, but then must go through technology, etc. in order to bring it to full fruition, we have a couple of printing hiccups.  But no worries- it will be available again ASAP!

Until then, here’s a little teaser…

“No matter what our story, above all else we all desire to love and be loved.  I believe that if we heal the wounds within ourselves first, and then within our partnerships, families, and communities, this is how we will eventually bring about the global peace and harmony that we wish to see.  This is true transformation from the inside out, not merely change from the outside in.  When we can do this within ourselves, our intimate relationships will be healthier.  When our intimate relationships are healthier, our families will be healthier.  When our families are healthier, our communities will be healthier, and so on.  It is of the utmost importance to first heal ourselves, then our relationships, our families, our communities, our world, and our universe.  If we attempt to change the world without this foundational healing, and attempt to re-build on a wounded separateness consciousness, we are again building our houses on sand.”   Amanda Dobra Hope-  from: Holding Space- A Guide to Supporting Others While Remembering to Take Care of Yourself First

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Obstacles

Obstacles

What is the purpose of an obstacle when it appears in our life?

When we are trying to level-up, push through to a new way of being, or heal, obstacles seem to come around right when we start thinking to ourselves, “I got this,” triggering our spiral into a land of confusion that could very possibly push us way off course if we give in.

So why do they come around, and what attention (if any) do we need to give them?

Here’s the thing… whatever we still need to heal from will very often make itself known when we are trying to move forward to our next step in life. No matter how big the leap, or how different the change, we can almost expect obstacles to show up just when we think we’re ready to go. When this happens, chances are we are ready to go on many levels, but if we push forward without addressing the old triggers or hurts that are lurking in our shadows, our ride will most likely not be a smooth one.

We have a choice in these moments, we can look at the obstacles/triggers/wounds and see what they are showing us, we can press on and try our best to ignore them, or we can give up and throw in the towel. If we try to ignore them or throw in the towel, it’s very possible that we will come face to face with a similar situation in the future. The presence of an obstacle does not necessarily mean that we are on the wrong path. In fact, it could very well point to the knowing that we are absolutely on the right path, as long as we remember that growing and learning through processing blocks is part of the fabric of life.

Of course there are times when we may not be entirely ready to work with our blocks and obstacles and keep moving in the direction that we were headed in. That’s okay. If the path we were following is the right one, our opportunities will show up again another time with different details. We can only run from things for so long until we have to face them and grow through the pain or discomfort. But we also have to do it at a pace that we can handle. If it’s not time, it’s not time. But if the time is ripe and we think we may not have the strength, it’s a great time for us to go deep into journaling, meditation, stillness, prayer, and all other forms of personal reflection and communion with that which is greater than us to help us navigate our way through.

Above all, we must remember that the path is not linear. We may have begun with a grand idea of what things would look like as we gracefully danced from point A to point B, but it rarely ever looks that way. The path is curvy, filled with spikes and dips, and we would do best to remember that any time the going gets a little rough.

Godspeed all.

You got this.

Listening to Your Body

Listening to Your Body

I’ve recently started a new (well, re-newed) practice during my morning meditation where I get myself into a deep meditative state and then perform a body scan. Starting with my toes and moving my way up my body, I energetically view each organ/body part to see how it’s doing. If everything looks clear and great, I move on. If not, I ask that part of me what I can do to best support it.

Using this technique, I have been lead to supplements, foods, and specific types of massage techniques to do, as well as healing exercises that I perform during the scan.

My body has taken a bit of a heavy toll in the last few years and some health issues have resulted. Though I eat healthy, meditate and exercise routinely, sometimes things pile up and our bodies take on a heavier load than we can digest and eliminate healthfully (both literally and metaphorically).

I was guided to write today but wasn’t sure what about. This is what came to me. Perhaps the body scan technique will help you unlock answers from your divine body wisdom to assist you in lightening your load as well.

Wishing you all things balanced and healthy.

How to Achieve Inner Peace Amongst the Chaos

How to Achieve Inner Peace Amongst the Chaos

For those seeking answers to this question in today’s day and age, here is a small list of actionable steps and tips. Please note that all of them are subject to further exploration and discussion in order to bring better results, but choosing a few things from this list will get you started on your quest to inner peace in no time.

Steps toward finding your inner peace amongst the chaos:

  1. Surround yourself with uplifting things- inspiring books, videos, messages, decor, etc.
  2. Learn how to tune in to your intuition in order to receive tailor made guidance for you (See my Amazon Kindle quick read series Ebook- “How to Tune In to Your Intuition”).
  3. Get plenty of rest.
  4. Do your personal growth work. (There are so many ways to do this- check out many other resources on my: blog, website, youtube channel, facebook, and instagram pages, and contact me for specialized assistance).
  5. Tune in to your higher power (whatever you know that to be)- have a conversation with it about what you need to know/do/be/feel on a daily basis.
  6. Check in often with yourself and your higher power when things are challenging for you.
  7. Remember that every butterfly was once a caterpillar and had to emerge from a dark and scary place where it seemed as though everything was falling apart.
  8. Have faith.
  9. Be and embody the feeling of LOVE.
  10. Ask your higher power to assist you in what you desire- or better yet, that which is highest and best for you that will concurrently bring you joy, career and life satisfaction, and pleasure.
  11. Ask yourself and your higher power what the best way is for you to give your unique gifts to the world and then take steps to follow that intuition.
  12. Understand that the world as a whole is going through a transformation while each person is also undergoing a personal transformation. We will get to the next stage as a collective whole.
  13. Do your part to increase the love deposited into the world everyday.
  14. Be your best self.
  15. Rest when you need to- retreat when necessary.
  16. Learn to “be” as much as you “do.”
  17. Go forward mindfully and with intention- don’t push forward in muddled energy or you may receive muddled results.
  18. Know that you are awesome and that healing and taking care of you helps the entire planet!

Do you want to work on any aspect of this list for yourself, or bring an engaging and actionable speech to your conference, company, or organization?

Contact me at amanda@itsasyoulikeit.com or go to: http://www.itsasyoulikeit.com for more information.