Don’t Squander the Gift You’ve Been Given Because You Don’t Understand Its True Worth

Don’t Squander the Gift You’ve Been Given Because You Don’t Understand Its True Worth

Life Lesson:

Don’t squander the gift you have right in your hands just because it doesn’t fit into your current narrative. Rather, seek to understand its true value and evolve with the possibilities that it is showing you.

This is what happens when people fail to see the treasure they’re holding right in their hands. The treasure that arises when you allow people to just be themselves and bring their unique gifts to the world.

As an evolutionary and visionary writer, I totally resonate with what was organically being birthed through the phenomenon that BTS has become in the world. In fact, I wrote a whole article about it that never got published, but rather buried in a 50,000 deep comment section of one of their most viewed pieces of content this year (one of the only comments I’ve ever made on Youtube). If you’re interested in reading it, give me a shout out and I will make sure to get it to you.

For now, this is what woke me up at 4am this morning asking to be written down (interesting, that’s the same time so many across my time zone woke up to witness their most recent fifty million strong global concert):

In their current form, BTS is a gift and an asset to their country, culture, and the world- paving the way for something new to emerge in many ways, and bringing their nation attention, goodwill, prestige, and income.

Pulled back and forth enough times over the last four years while the decision of how they should best serve their country was debated, they will now be taking eighteen months to “serve” in a way that isn’t true to their destiny and purpose, eventually becoming a liability (due to increased measures that will need to be taken while they are there), rather than an asset to their nation.

The government failed to see the precious flower they were holding right in their hands. They squeezed it so hard trying to make it fit the outdated mold of “the way it’s always been done,” that the flower has to become something other than what it is in order to save itself and continue to bring its gift to those who do understand at a later date.

Change is constant. What’s trying to emerge will always find a way. It’s much easier to choose to adapt and evolve- embracing the gifts that are there to show us all a different way.

It is my hope that both individually and on the global stage, this idea will begin to take root and lead us into the peace and harmony we truly seek as a species.

You Can Only Abuse the Feminine for So Long…

You Can Only Abuse the Feminine for So Long…

You can only abuse the feminine for so long.

She is wise, she is forgiving, she is open-hearted, she is concerned for the greater good, she can see the larger vision, she knows what may happen (her intuition is strong), she is a great leader, she is compassionate, she is allowing, she is strong.

But she cannot be abused and taken for granted forever.

Her compassionate energy has an expiration date.

And she will explode.

Abuse the earth too long, she will erupt.

Abuse the wisdom keepers for too long, they will cease to provide their wisdom.

Abuse the feminine aspects of a partner for too long, they will withdraw.

The world needs the feminine.

Without it, we don’t exist.

None of us.

The masculine energy on this earth (most specifically in Western cultures) is extremely out of balance and must come back into alignment.

Everyone and everything that has been belittled, pushed aside, or seen as not as important has the key to this balance.

Nature, contemplation, personal growth, meditation, indigenous, non-binary (two-spirits), women, creativity, philosophers, artists, and anyone who truly understands how to have a healthy relationship with themselves, others, and the world around them.

The masculine and feminine energies exist in every one of us, no matter our gender, as well as everything in our world.

The masculine energy (“doing,” business, industry, academia, etc.) is not more important to our existence on this planet, and never has been.

Human ego born from the idea that the feminine can be controlled (industry, inventions, emotions, relationships, pesticides, systems based on submission and control) has allowed the masculine energies to run wild. The belief being that “survival” depends on who can control the most resources, people, emotions, etc. The truth is we are interdependent. Control and domination do not equal safety and survival. Imbalance always rights itself and the feminine is rising.

And her patience has an expiration date.

It’s Time to Honor the Feminine- On the Inside and Outside

It’s Time to Honor the Feminine- On the Inside and Outside

It is long past time to honor the keepers of the feminine for all they have given us. Mother Earth needs our love and gratitude. Women need our love and honor, indigenous groups deserve our gratitude and respect.

The Western world has gotten caught in a pattern of solely acknowledging and recognizing the worth in what we can see and measure, the things that someone or something are “doing.”

It is far past time to acknowledge the ways in which so many living things have been “being,” and all of the emotional and spiritual resources they have provided us in addition to the physical.

It is time to start thinking beyond just our five senses and remember that the whole of the human experience on earth includes much more than that. The quality of: relationships, beauty, art, culture, love, empathy, care, holding space, positive energy, and integrity we embody and experience from others are core factors in determining the level of satisfaction we experience in our life on earth.

Why are we allowing them to be forgotten, suppressed, and shoved away, when they are such a huge piece of the human experience? No matter what we’ve been taught by an out of balance system that has encouraged “doing” at the expense of “being,” we CAN change the narrative.

We can bring things back to balance right now by committing to honor and respect the feminine in ourselves (whether we’re male, female, or other), as well as in all those who carry the torch for the forgotten side of all that exists.

It is past time to nurture, respect, and show love and gratitude to everything and everyone that enriches our lives through their “being,” as well to honor and recognize how much precious energy they are using.

Honor the earth keepers, space holders, highest good holders, the feminine side of each and every one of us, and the earth we walk upon—for they are not “less than” as our culture has continually made them out to be—but our salvation.

Your Time in the Cocoon is Uncomfortable, but Worth It.

Your Time in the Cocoon is Uncomfortable, but Worth It.

We all want to feel good, and we should strive to feel good—healthy, happy, healed, and thriving. But what happens when we’re not? It’s such an important topic that even the first chapter of my Holding Space book is all about “getting comfortable with being uncomfortable.”

The thing is, growth happens in the stages when we’re uncomfortable. It’s not comfortable for the caterpillar to be stuck in a dark cocoon thinking its life is over, but in that state it is growing— “becoming.”

I’m not saying it’s fun to be uncomfortable, or even that it doesn’t suck, but the struggle to get free from it builds our strength, resolve, hope, and faith—and these are things we desperately need to cultivate in our lives.

Here are a few ideas to help you navigate the darker times:

ALLOW yourself to be uncomfortable first of all, KNOW that it won’t last forever, FEEL the feelings-let them pass in their time, and don’t try too hard to rush the process. The good times are coming, and the uncomfortable times will push you to uncover/heal/notice/do/say/be what is necessary to bring you to the next level. If you need to, say to yourself or whoever may be going through things with you, “This sucks,” or “This sure is uncomfortable, isn’t it?” and let out a bit of the tension by just acknowledging the pain or struggle.

Wish you were already at the next level? Don’t we all. But if you try to rush past it and don’t allow yourself the time to be uncomfortable, the joy won’t get here any faster, and you may miss some things that you’ll have to come back to later.

Most importantly, don’t judge yourself or this time. It is normal. It is necessary. And it sucks. But YOU don’t suck. If you can give yourself grace, love yourself, and be willing to look into the gifts in the darkness, you will grow into that next version of yourself. You will not get sucked into the void if you learn not to fear it.

It’s been super intense out there lately, friends.

Allow whatever it is, be kind to yourself, and remember that nothing will change on the outer level until you’re willing to look at it on the inner level. The uncomfortable times force us to SEE—if we are willing to look.

(This post is something I wrote on Facebook years ago. I re-shared it recently and it got great feedback, so I wanted to share it over here).

Obstacles

Obstacles

What is the purpose of an obstacle when it appears in our life?

When we are trying to level-up, push through to a new way of being, or heal, obstacles seem to come around right when we start thinking to ourselves, “I got this,” triggering our spiral into a land of confusion that could very possibly push us way off course if we give in.

So why do they come around, and what attention (if any) do we need to give them?

Here’s the thing… whatever we still need to heal from will very often make itself known when we are trying to move forward to our next step in life. No matter how big the leap, or how different the change, we can almost expect obstacles to show up just when we think we’re ready to go. When this happens, chances are we are ready to go on many levels, but if we push forward without addressing the old triggers or hurts that are lurking in our shadows, our ride will most likely not be a smooth one.

We have a choice in these moments, we can look at the obstacles/triggers/wounds and see what they are showing us, we can press on and try our best to ignore them, or we can give up and throw in the towel. If we try to ignore them or throw in the towel, it’s very possible that we will come face to face with a similar situation in the future. The presence of an obstacle does not necessarily mean that we are on the wrong path. In fact, it could very well point to the knowing that we are absolutely on the right path, as long as we remember that growing and learning through processing blocks is part of the fabric of life.

Of course there are times when we may not be entirely ready to work with our blocks and obstacles and keep moving in the direction that we were headed in. That’s okay. If the path we were following is the right one, our opportunities will show up again another time with different details. We can only run from things for so long until we have to face them and grow through the pain or discomfort. But we also have to do it at a pace that we can handle. If it’s not time, it’s not time. But if the time is ripe and we think we may not have the strength, it’s a great time for us to go deep into journaling, meditation, stillness, prayer, and all other forms of personal reflection and communion with that which is greater than us to help us navigate our way through.

Above all, we must remember that the path is not linear. We may have begun with a grand idea of what things would look like as we gracefully danced from point A to point B, but it rarely ever looks that way. The path is curvy, filled with spikes and dips, and we would do best to remember that any time the going gets a little rough.

Godspeed all.

You got this.

How to Achieve Inner Peace Amongst the Chaos

How to Achieve Inner Peace Amongst the Chaos

For those seeking answers to this question in today’s day and age, here is a small list of actionable steps and tips. Please note that all of them are subject to further exploration and discussion in order to bring better results, but choosing a few things from this list will get you started on your quest to inner peace in no time.

Steps toward finding your inner peace amongst the chaos:

  1. Surround yourself with uplifting things- inspiring books, videos, messages, decor, etc.
  2. Learn how to tune in to your intuition in order to receive tailor made guidance for you (See my Amazon Kindle quick read series Ebook- “How to Tune In to Your Intuition”).
  3. Get plenty of rest.
  4. Do your personal growth work. (There are so many ways to do this- check out many other resources on my: blog, website, youtube channel, facebook, and instagram pages, and contact me for specialized assistance).
  5. Tune in to your higher power (whatever you know that to be)- have a conversation with it about what you need to know/do/be/feel on a daily basis.
  6. Check in often with yourself and your higher power when things are challenging for you.
  7. Remember that every butterfly was once a caterpillar and had to emerge from a dark and scary place where it seemed as though everything was falling apart.
  8. Have faith.
  9. Be and embody the feeling of LOVE.
  10. Ask your higher power to assist you in what you desire- or better yet, that which is highest and best for you that will concurrently bring you joy, career and life satisfaction, and pleasure.
  11. Ask yourself and your higher power what the best way is for you to give your unique gifts to the world and then take steps to follow that intuition.
  12. Understand that the world as a whole is going through a transformation while each person is also undergoing a personal transformation. We will get to the next stage as a collective whole.
  13. Do your part to increase the love deposited into the world everyday.
  14. Be your best self.
  15. Rest when you need to- retreat when necessary.
  16. Learn to “be” as much as you “do.”
  17. Go forward mindfully and with intention- don’t push forward in muddled energy or you may receive muddled results.
  18. Know that you are awesome and that healing and taking care of you helps the entire planet!

Do you want to work on any aspect of this list for yourself, or bring an engaging and actionable speech to your conference, company, or organization?

Contact me at amanda@itsasyoulikeit.com or go to: http://www.itsasyoulikeit.com for more information.

Struggling? It’s a normal part of the process-don’t judge yourself.

Struggling?  It’s a normal part of the process-don’t judge yourself.

Struggle is a completely normal part of life.

Though it is uncomfortable, and there are indeed stresses associated with it, I encourage you to hold yourself gently during this time and resist the urge to judge yourself.  You are trying to break through to the next level, and the path isn’t always linear, but you are showing up and doing what you can, whether or not you fall down.

When the internal chatter starts to show up, and you feel ashamed for whatever you are going through, try to remember that you need your own love most of all, and that there is NO SHAME in being where you are.

Remind and congratulate yourself for all the things that you have done well, and do what you can to find the answers you need.  Meditate (though it’s best to do this daily), journal (extra if you need to), reach out for help, and have a conversation with whatever you believe in that is bigger than you.

Just don’t judge yourself harshly for where you are.

Writing this for myself as much as I am for you.

 

Addressing Core Issues To Affect Real Change

Addressing Core Issues To Affect Real Change

In order to cause real change in ourselves and our world, we must address the root issues and build new structures.

Though addressing the symptoms of an unhealthy system or relationship is important during a crisis period, there needs to be a new and healthier system taking shape in order to keep history from repeating itself.  This takes more time and effort than fixing only the surface issues immediately, but it you’re looking for long-term gain and real change, it’s the only way to go.

Do the work.  You’re worth it.  Our society is worth it.  Our universe is worth it.