You Can Only Abuse the Feminine for So Long…

You Can Only Abuse the Feminine for So Long…

You can only abuse the feminine for so long.

She is wise, she is forgiving, she is open-hearted, she is concerned for the greater good, she can see the larger vision, she knows what may happen (her intuition is strong), she is a great leader, she is compassionate, she is allowing, she is strong.

But she cannot be abused and taken for granted forever.

Her compassionate energy has an expiration date.

And she will explode.

Abuse the earth too long, she will erupt.

Abuse the wisdom keepers for too long, they will cease to provide their wisdom.

Abuse the feminine aspects of a partner for too long, they will withdraw.

The world needs the feminine.

Without it, we don’t exist.

None of us.

The masculine energy on this earth (most specifically in Western cultures) is extremely out of balance and must come back into alignment.

Everyone and everything that has been belittled, pushed aside, or seen as not as important has the key to this balance.

Nature, contemplation, personal growth, meditation, indigenous, non-binary (two-spirits), women, creativity, philosophers, artists, and anyone who truly understands how to have a healthy relationship with themselves, others, and the world around them.

The masculine and feminine energies exist in every one of us, no matter our gender, as well as everything in our world.

The masculine energy (“doing,” business, industry, academia, etc.) is not more important to our existence on this planet, and never has been.

Human ego born from the idea that the feminine can be controlled (industry, inventions, emotions, relationships, pesticides, systems based on submission and control) has allowed the masculine energies to run wild. The belief being that “survival” depends on who can control the most resources, people, emotions, etc. The truth is we are interdependent. Control and domination do not equal safety and survival. Imbalance always rights itself and the feminine is rising.

And her patience has an expiration date.

Your Time in the Cocoon is Uncomfortable, but Worth It.

Your Time in the Cocoon is Uncomfortable, but Worth It.

We all want to feel good, and we should strive to feel good—healthy, happy, healed, and thriving. But what happens when we’re not? It’s such an important topic that even the first chapter of my Holding Space book is all about “getting comfortable with being uncomfortable.”

The thing is, growth happens in the stages when we’re uncomfortable. It’s not comfortable for the caterpillar to be stuck in a dark cocoon thinking its life is over, but in that state it is growing— “becoming.”

I’m not saying it’s fun to be uncomfortable, or even that it doesn’t suck, but the struggle to get free from it builds our strength, resolve, hope, and faith—and these are things we desperately need to cultivate in our lives.

Here are a few ideas to help you navigate the darker times:

ALLOW yourself to be uncomfortable first of all, KNOW that it won’t last forever, FEEL the feelings-let them pass in their time, and don’t try too hard to rush the process. The good times are coming, and the uncomfortable times will push you to uncover/heal/notice/do/say/be what is necessary to bring you to the next level. If you need to, say to yourself or whoever may be going through things with you, “This sucks,” or “This sure is uncomfortable, isn’t it?” and let out a bit of the tension by just acknowledging the pain or struggle.

Wish you were already at the next level? Don’t we all. But if you try to rush past it and don’t allow yourself the time to be uncomfortable, the joy won’t get here any faster, and you may miss some things that you’ll have to come back to later.

Most importantly, don’t judge yourself or this time. It is normal. It is necessary. And it sucks. But YOU don’t suck. If you can give yourself grace, love yourself, and be willing to look into the gifts in the darkness, you will grow into that next version of yourself. You will not get sucked into the void if you learn not to fear it.

It’s been super intense out there lately, friends.

Allow whatever it is, be kind to yourself, and remember that nothing will change on the outer level until you’re willing to look at it on the inner level. The uncomfortable times force us to SEE—if we are willing to look.

(This post is something I wrote on Facebook years ago. I re-shared it recently and it got great feedback, so I wanted to share it over here).

But What About Our Arms?

But What About Our Arms?

As I was doing my meditation and body healing this morning, moving the clearing energy down my body, it got stuck right above my arms and did not want to move down them.

So I did some investigating. I had a conversation in my head with my arms and found out why there was an energy blockage there. Turns out- they feel forgotten about with all of the healing work I’ve been doing for myself. And guess what- they are absolutely right!

I’ve been doing a chakra healing program lately and when I was investigating why my arms felt left out, I realized that they were! If you’ve studied energy for even a little while, you most likely know that there are more than just the main seven chakras in our energy centers. However, it seems most general healing practices, while keeping their focus on the main seven, are leaving out the arms. It seems that almost all of the attention is given to the chakras along the central channel of our bodies, and then to our legs, as much attention is given to grounding to the earth and breathing down through our legs and feet. My arms felt as if they were an afterthought, an “extra” hanging out outside of the rest of the central trunk of the body.

As I thought about it, there really hasn’t been an energy healing program I’ve done that focused on, or even really talked about the arms. The arms do so much for us. They do the “heavy lifting” of our lives, they help us eat, reach, climb, hug, and create. Why is it, I wonder, that most of the general energy healing programs forget about them? My arms felt like they didn’t get any of the healing that the rest of my body was getting, and they were absolutely right. I felt bad that I had glossed over them so badly when they were every bit as important and worthy as the rest of my body.

I hadn’t done it on purpose, I was just following the healing programs as they were taught to me all throughout my life. And the healings have been incredible. So many things have been released, shifted, and strengthened through all of the different healing modalities and practitioners I have tried, but my arms were absolutely right, they had gotten the shaft for far too long.

So my question to the universe, and the healing community at large, is “What about our arms?” I promised my arms that I would write this blog to further investigate the dismissal of their worthiness in overall healing protocols, and even just the recognition that they are an important part of our body. They really felt slighted, and they had every reason to feel so.

So what gives? Can this be changed? Can we look at adding in some attention and healing to our arms in the general energetic center healing practices? They do so much for us.

It’s time to start focusing on and recognizing all of the things, people, and concepts that have been left behind for far too long. To integrate our wholeness, we must investigate, recognize, and love all of the things, people, and concepts that have been shunned or pushed to the wayside.

Energy

Energy

What if all of the turbulent weather we’ve been experiencing is a reflection of our collective turbulent thoughts and feelings?

Does that seem crazy?

If so, I ask you to kindly consider the reverse…

Everyone agrees that the moon affects the tides and our bodies are mostly water… therefore, the phases of the moon also affect us.

My point? EVERYTHING is connected, and EVERYTHING is made up of energy that can be manipulated in some way either by the thing itself, or by someone or something else.

I caught a portion of a Zoom yesterday with a quantum physicist and in the comments, someone mentioned the idea that perhaps the wild weather we’ve been getting is really just a reflection of our unsettled collective energy.

There is so much being purged in the human race, the earth, and everything on it at this time, that I can definitely see that being a possibility.

Today I took it even further and considered this…I have numerous afflictions from years of chronic stress (even being an avid meditator and personal growth guru – there has been a lot going on for me personally the last few years, and many different types of stress have been present- even energetic stress from certain environments).

Everyone knows that stress can turn into malfunctions in the body system. But have we considered that it’s energy that makes this so (remember qi and mana)?

If personal stress (an imbalance in our personal energy) can cause disruption in our individual body systems, doesn’t it make sense that collective stress can manifest in turbulent weather patterns (which are also fueled by energy)?

I’m not blaming or shaming anyone here, but rather want to continue to bring awareness to why I advocate that it is our duty as humans “be-ing,” to be responsible with our energy. Just because we don’t understand it or weren’t taught that it matters, doesn’t make it any less true that our energy affects not only us, but everyone and everything around us.

– Musings from my forthcoming book in progress about the importance of understanding and being aware of energy. *Full Disclaimer and heads up to budding personal growth authors- being a non-fiction personal growth author can be a slippery thing. You start going through a bunch of things personally, and all of a sudden, you’re guided to write a book on what you were only just beginning to piece together from different periods of your life. After that, get ready for the ride because you will end up going through a whole lot more to make sure you really understand what you didn’t even realize you were going to be writing/teaching about. The universe just wants to make sure you are fully embodied in the subject! :O

Listening to Your Body

Listening to Your Body

I’ve recently started a new (well, re-newed) practice during my morning meditation where I get myself into a deep meditative state and then perform a body scan. Starting with my toes and moving my way up my body, I energetically view each organ/body part to see how it’s doing. If everything looks clear and great, I move on. If not, I ask that part of me what I can do to best support it.

Using this technique, I have been lead to supplements, foods, and specific types of massage techniques to do, as well as healing exercises that I perform during the scan.

My body has taken a bit of a heavy toll in the last few years and some health issues have resulted. Though I eat healthy, meditate and exercise routinely, sometimes things pile up and our bodies take on a heavier load than we can digest and eliminate healthfully (both literally and metaphorically).

I was guided to write today but wasn’t sure what about. This is what came to me. Perhaps the body scan technique will help you unlock answers from your divine body wisdom to assist you in lightening your load as well.

Wishing you all things balanced and healthy.

How to Achieve Inner Peace Amongst the Chaos

How to Achieve Inner Peace Amongst the Chaos

For those seeking answers to this question in today’s day and age, here is a small list of actionable steps and tips. Please note that all of them are subject to further exploration and discussion in order to bring better results, but choosing a few things from this list will get you started on your quest to inner peace in no time.

Steps toward finding your inner peace amongst the chaos:

  1. Surround yourself with uplifting things- inspiring books, videos, messages, decor, etc.
  2. Learn how to tune in to your intuition in order to receive tailor made guidance for you (See my Amazon Kindle quick read series Ebook- “How to Tune In to Your Intuition”).
  3. Get plenty of rest.
  4. Do your personal growth work. (There are so many ways to do this- check out many other resources on my: blog, website, youtube channel, facebook, and instagram pages, and contact me for specialized assistance).
  5. Tune in to your higher power (whatever you know that to be)- have a conversation with it about what you need to know/do/be/feel on a daily basis.
  6. Check in often with yourself and your higher power when things are challenging for you.
  7. Remember that every butterfly was once a caterpillar and had to emerge from a dark and scary place where it seemed as though everything was falling apart.
  8. Have faith.
  9. Be and embody the feeling of LOVE.
  10. Ask your higher power to assist you in what you desire- or better yet, that which is highest and best for you that will concurrently bring you joy, career and life satisfaction, and pleasure.
  11. Ask yourself and your higher power what the best way is for you to give your unique gifts to the world and then take steps to follow that intuition.
  12. Understand that the world as a whole is going through a transformation while each person is also undergoing a personal transformation. We will get to the next stage as a collective whole.
  13. Do your part to increase the love deposited into the world everyday.
  14. Be your best self.
  15. Rest when you need to- retreat when necessary.
  16. Learn to “be” as much as you “do.”
  17. Go forward mindfully and with intention- don’t push forward in muddled energy or you may receive muddled results.
  18. Know that you are awesome and that healing and taking care of you helps the entire planet!

Do you want to work on any aspect of this list for yourself, or bring an engaging and actionable speech to your conference, company, or organization?

Contact me at amanda@itsasyoulikeit.com or go to: http://www.itsasyoulikeit.com for more information.

Conditioned Response

Conditioned Response

I started dusting a little while ago because I suddenly felt guided to.

As I began moving the decorations on the entertainment center in the living room to dust, one of my cats came bolting out of her favorite adjacent room and ran upstairs.

Why?

Conditioned Response.

She’s not afraid of my dusting. What she is afraid of is the vacuum. Historically, when I dust, the vacuum is soon to follow.

Now I’ve been low on energy for quite a while, and was only planning on dusting as that’s all I had the energy for today. I wasn’t going to vacuum. But, this creature whom I can’t communicate with in words to tell her that, has learned about the environments she lives in and how to predict them by observing them. Humans have words, but we don’t always think to use them to convey to people that we aren’t going to cause them the same harm that someone or something in their past did. And even if we did use them, it may not do any good as people often get triggered.

Familiar things start happening, a person’s conditioned response sets in, and fight or flight takes over.

At this point, even if we use our human words or emotions of love to reassure the person that we can be trusted and that the hurtful events of their past aren’t about to play out again- the triggered person is no longer open to this info. They are in protective mode.

The only thing they want to do at this point is run upstairs to avoid the vacuum, and in the heightened state they are in, they may also give us a piece of their mind on their way up there.

As humans, we have the power to dispel triggers and projections by doing the inner work necessary to help us separate one situation from another. We can discover through careful examination that though the details of the situation may seem strikingly similar to those in the situations where we were hurt previously, we need to take a deeper look into the intentions or emotional state of the person or thing that originally caused us harm. This is where we will find our answers.

We need to ask ourselves˗ are the motivations, true intentions, and overall emotional state of the current person the same as the person who harmed us in the past? It may take some digging and raw honesty, especially if we are still in the triggered state, to find the real answer. If we have done the work and know for certain that the answer is yes after fully processing and separating the initial incidents from this one˗ we may need to do something different or have every reason to want to protect ourselves.

But what happens if when we look as deep as we can go, we realize that the intentions of the current person and situation are not to harm us, and that in fact they won’t harm us (based on our previous history of interactions with that person), but rather that we are blocking intimacy with them because of the giant fearball we have placed between ourselves and any trust we have of them.

We got our cat as a stray. She was friendly but skittish, and we were certain that she had been someone’s indoor pet but had been traumatized in some way before she was probably thrown out or just let go. Because of this, she was distrustful of humans, through at the same time she craved our affection and love. Maybe a vacuum had hurt her in the past, and maybe the person operating it had intended to harm her (most likely as a result of their own inner demons that they couldn’t calm).

If she wants to fully let down her guard and enjoy her life with us, she will need to learn that we do not intend to harm her, and that we will not use an object (especially the one she has been conditioned to be afraid of) to harm her.

She must learn to separate the motives and intentions of the person in the past from the actions, motives, and intentions she has come to expect from us for the last few years in her present.
My question in all of this is here:

Is there somewhere in your life where you are so traumatized by the feelings and objects that were directed your way in a negative energy in the past, that you are not able to trust those who are not trying to hurt you in the present˗ though the details of the situation or object may seem the same?

Maybe it’s time to take a deeper look.

Struggling? It’s a normal part of the process-don’t judge yourself.

Struggling?  It’s a normal part of the process-don’t judge yourself.

Struggle is a completely normal part of life.

Though it is uncomfortable, and there are indeed stresses associated with it, I encourage you to hold yourself gently during this time and resist the urge to judge yourself.  You are trying to break through to the next level, and the path isn’t always linear, but you are showing up and doing what you can, whether or not you fall down.

When the internal chatter starts to show up, and you feel ashamed for whatever you are going through, try to remember that you need your own love most of all, and that there is NO SHAME in being where you are.

Remind and congratulate yourself for all the things that you have done well, and do what you can to find the answers you need.  Meditate (though it’s best to do this daily), journal (extra if you need to), reach out for help, and have a conversation with whatever you believe in that is bigger than you.

Just don’t judge yourself harshly for where you are.

Writing this for myself as much as I am for you.