You Can Only Abuse the Feminine for So Long…

You Can Only Abuse the Feminine for So Long…

You can only abuse the feminine for so long.

She is wise, she is forgiving, she is open-hearted, she is concerned for the greater good, she can see the larger vision, she knows what may happen (her intuition is strong), she is a great leader, she is compassionate, she is allowing, she is strong.

But she cannot be abused and taken for granted forever.

Her compassionate energy has an expiration date.

And she will explode.

Abuse the earth too long, she will erupt.

Abuse the wisdom keepers for too long, they will cease to provide their wisdom.

Abuse the feminine aspects of a partner for too long, they will withdraw.

The world needs the feminine.

Without it, we don’t exist.

None of us.

The masculine energy on this earth (most specifically in Western cultures) is extremely out of balance and must come back into alignment.

Everyone and everything that has been belittled, pushed aside, or seen as not as important has the key to this balance.

Nature, contemplation, personal growth, meditation, indigenous, non-binary (two-spirits), women, creativity, philosophers, artists, and anyone who truly understands how to have a healthy relationship with themselves, others, and the world around them.

The masculine and feminine energies exist in every one of us, no matter our gender, as well as everything in our world.

The masculine energy (“doing,” business, industry, academia, etc.) is not more important to our existence on this planet, and never has been.

Human ego born from the idea that the feminine can be controlled (industry, inventions, emotions, relationships, pesticides, systems based on submission and control) has allowed the masculine energies to run wild. The belief being that “survival” depends on who can control the most resources, people, emotions, etc. The truth is we are interdependent. Control and domination do not equal safety and survival. Imbalance always rights itself and the feminine is rising.

And her patience has an expiration date.

It’s Time to Honor the Feminine- On the Inside and Outside

It’s Time to Honor the Feminine- On the Inside and Outside

It is long past time to honor the keepers of the feminine for all they have given us. Mother Earth needs our love and gratitude. Women need our love and honor, indigenous groups deserve our gratitude and respect.

The Western world has gotten caught in a pattern of solely acknowledging and recognizing the worth in what we can see and measure, the things that someone or something are “doing.”

It is far past time to acknowledge the ways in which so many living things have been “being,” and all of the emotional and spiritual resources they have provided us in addition to the physical.

It is time to start thinking beyond just our five senses and remember that the whole of the human experience on earth includes much more than that. The quality of: relationships, beauty, art, culture, love, empathy, care, holding space, positive energy, and integrity we embody and experience from others are core factors in determining the level of satisfaction we experience in our life on earth.

Why are we allowing them to be forgotten, suppressed, and shoved away, when they are such a huge piece of the human experience? No matter what we’ve been taught by an out of balance system that has encouraged “doing” at the expense of “being,” we CAN change the narrative.

We can bring things back to balance right now by committing to honor and respect the feminine in ourselves (whether we’re male, female, or other), as well as in all those who carry the torch for the forgotten side of all that exists.

It is past time to nurture, respect, and show love and gratitude to everything and everyone that enriches our lives through their “being,” as well to honor and recognize how much precious energy they are using.

Honor the earth keepers, space holders, highest good holders, the feminine side of each and every one of us, and the earth we walk upon—for they are not “less than” as our culture has continually made them out to be—but our salvation.

Your Time in the Cocoon is Uncomfortable, but Worth It.

Your Time in the Cocoon is Uncomfortable, but Worth It.

We all want to feel good, and we should strive to feel good—healthy, happy, healed, and thriving. But what happens when we’re not? It’s such an important topic that even the first chapter of my Holding Space book is all about “getting comfortable with being uncomfortable.”

The thing is, growth happens in the stages when we’re uncomfortable. It’s not comfortable for the caterpillar to be stuck in a dark cocoon thinking its life is over, but in that state it is growing— “becoming.”

I’m not saying it’s fun to be uncomfortable, or even that it doesn’t suck, but the struggle to get free from it builds our strength, resolve, hope, and faith—and these are things we desperately need to cultivate in our lives.

Here are a few ideas to help you navigate the darker times:

ALLOW yourself to be uncomfortable first of all, KNOW that it won’t last forever, FEEL the feelings-let them pass in their time, and don’t try too hard to rush the process. The good times are coming, and the uncomfortable times will push you to uncover/heal/notice/do/say/be what is necessary to bring you to the next level. If you need to, say to yourself or whoever may be going through things with you, “This sucks,” or “This sure is uncomfortable, isn’t it?” and let out a bit of the tension by just acknowledging the pain or struggle.

Wish you were already at the next level? Don’t we all. But if you try to rush past it and don’t allow yourself the time to be uncomfortable, the joy won’t get here any faster, and you may miss some things that you’ll have to come back to later.

Most importantly, don’t judge yourself or this time. It is normal. It is necessary. And it sucks. But YOU don’t suck. If you can give yourself grace, love yourself, and be willing to look into the gifts in the darkness, you will grow into that next version of yourself. You will not get sucked into the void if you learn not to fear it.

It’s been super intense out there lately, friends.

Allow whatever it is, be kind to yourself, and remember that nothing will change on the outer level until you’re willing to look at it on the inner level. The uncomfortable times force us to SEE—if we are willing to look.

(This post is something I wrote on Facebook years ago. I re-shared it recently and it got great feedback, so I wanted to share it over here).

Energy

Energy

What if all of the turbulent weather we’ve been experiencing is a reflection of our collective turbulent thoughts and feelings?

Does that seem crazy?

If so, I ask you to kindly consider the reverse…

Everyone agrees that the moon affects the tides and our bodies are mostly water… therefore, the phases of the moon also affect us.

My point? EVERYTHING is connected, and EVERYTHING is made up of energy that can be manipulated in some way either by the thing itself, or by someone or something else.

I caught a portion of a Zoom yesterday with a quantum physicist and in the comments, someone mentioned the idea that perhaps the wild weather we’ve been getting is really just a reflection of our unsettled collective energy.

There is so much being purged in the human race, the earth, and everything on it at this time, that I can definitely see that being a possibility.

Today I took it even further and considered this…I have numerous afflictions from years of chronic stress (even being an avid meditator and personal growth guru – there has been a lot going on for me personally the last few years, and many different types of stress have been present- even energetic stress from certain environments).

Everyone knows that stress can turn into malfunctions in the body system. But have we considered that it’s energy that makes this so (remember qi and mana)?

If personal stress (an imbalance in our personal energy) can cause disruption in our individual body systems, doesn’t it make sense that collective stress can manifest in turbulent weather patterns (which are also fueled by energy)?

I’m not blaming or shaming anyone here, but rather want to continue to bring awareness to why I advocate that it is our duty as humans “be-ing,” to be responsible with our energy. Just because we don’t understand it or weren’t taught that it matters, doesn’t make it any less true that our energy affects not only us, but everyone and everything around us.

– Musings from my forthcoming book in progress about the importance of understanding and being aware of energy. *Full Disclaimer and heads up to budding personal growth authors- being a non-fiction personal growth author can be a slippery thing. You start going through a bunch of things personally, and all of a sudden, you’re guided to write a book on what you were only just beginning to piece together from different periods of your life. After that, get ready for the ride because you will end up going through a whole lot more to make sure you really understand what you didn’t even realize you were going to be writing/teaching about. The universe just wants to make sure you are fully embodied in the subject! :O

Obstacles

Obstacles

What is the purpose of an obstacle when it appears in our life?

When we are trying to level-up, push through to a new way of being, or heal, obstacles seem to come around right when we start thinking to ourselves, “I got this,” triggering our spiral into a land of confusion that could very possibly push us way off course if we give in.

So why do they come around, and what attention (if any) do we need to give them?

Here’s the thing… whatever we still need to heal from will very often make itself known when we are trying to move forward to our next step in life. No matter how big the leap, or how different the change, we can almost expect obstacles to show up just when we think we’re ready to go. When this happens, chances are we are ready to go on many levels, but if we push forward without addressing the old triggers or hurts that are lurking in our shadows, our ride will most likely not be a smooth one.

We have a choice in these moments, we can look at the obstacles/triggers/wounds and see what they are showing us, we can press on and try our best to ignore them, or we can give up and throw in the towel. If we try to ignore them or throw in the towel, it’s very possible that we will come face to face with a similar situation in the future. The presence of an obstacle does not necessarily mean that we are on the wrong path. In fact, it could very well point to the knowing that we are absolutely on the right path, as long as we remember that growing and learning through processing blocks is part of the fabric of life.

Of course there are times when we may not be entirely ready to work with our blocks and obstacles and keep moving in the direction that we were headed in. That’s okay. If the path we were following is the right one, our opportunities will show up again another time with different details. We can only run from things for so long until we have to face them and grow through the pain or discomfort. But we also have to do it at a pace that we can handle. If it’s not time, it’s not time. But if the time is ripe and we think we may not have the strength, it’s a great time for us to go deep into journaling, meditation, stillness, prayer, and all other forms of personal reflection and communion with that which is greater than us to help us navigate our way through.

Above all, we must remember that the path is not linear. We may have begun with a grand idea of what things would look like as we gracefully danced from point A to point B, but it rarely ever looks that way. The path is curvy, filled with spikes and dips, and we would do best to remember that any time the going gets a little rough.

Godspeed all.

You got this.

Listening to Your Body

Listening to Your Body

I’ve recently started a new (well, re-newed) practice during my morning meditation where I get myself into a deep meditative state and then perform a body scan. Starting with my toes and moving my way up my body, I energetically view each organ/body part to see how it’s doing. If everything looks clear and great, I move on. If not, I ask that part of me what I can do to best support it.

Using this technique, I have been lead to supplements, foods, and specific types of massage techniques to do, as well as healing exercises that I perform during the scan.

My body has taken a bit of a heavy toll in the last few years and some health issues have resulted. Though I eat healthy, meditate and exercise routinely, sometimes things pile up and our bodies take on a heavier load than we can digest and eliminate healthfully (both literally and metaphorically).

I was guided to write today but wasn’t sure what about. This is what came to me. Perhaps the body scan technique will help you unlock answers from your divine body wisdom to assist you in lightening your load as well.

Wishing you all things balanced and healthy.

Struggling? It’s a normal part of the process-don’t judge yourself.

Struggling?  It’s a normal part of the process-don’t judge yourself.

Struggle is a completely normal part of life.

Though it is uncomfortable, and there are indeed stresses associated with it, I encourage you to hold yourself gently during this time and resist the urge to judge yourself.  You are trying to break through to the next level, and the path isn’t always linear, but you are showing up and doing what you can, whether or not you fall down.

When the internal chatter starts to show up, and you feel ashamed for whatever you are going through, try to remember that you need your own love most of all, and that there is NO SHAME in being where you are.

Remind and congratulate yourself for all the things that you have done well, and do what you can to find the answers you need.  Meditate (though it’s best to do this daily), journal (extra if you need to), reach out for help, and have a conversation with whatever you believe in that is bigger than you.

Just don’t judge yourself harshly for where you are.

Writing this for myself as much as I am for you.

 

I will be live tonight with David Clark on “Different Strokes for Different Folks”

I am under the impression that this is a call-in show as well. 🙂

Join us! 6:30pm CST

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/authordavidclarke/2017/12/15/merge-your-spiritual-and-physical-worlds-with-amanda-dobra-hope

 

 

Manifesting What You Truly Desire: Part II

Manifesting What You Truly Desire: Part II

This is a continuation of my last post.

How do you get to know yourself, in order to be sure you manifest what you truly desire?

Take time for stillness, meditation, and contemplation each day, and get to know yourself in an intimate way.   Learn from your feelings about things.  What are they telling you?  What are the deeper feelings under why you feel that way?  What lights you up?  What drains you?  What makes you feel like you are moving towards something, and what makes you feel as if you are manifesting more of what you’re moving away from?

When you answer these questions and start to move forward, you should also be aware that many of your old subconscious beliefs (ones you are probably not aware of), will begin to rise to the surface.  They will try to throw you off track, because you are trying to manifest the opposite of what they are telling you is possible for you to achieve.  You soaked up these old tapes long ago, and they are most likely not applicable to what you are trying to create in this moment. Be gentle with them and yourself as you attempt to define, unravel, and dissolve them, they’ve been with you for a long time.

Give yourself grace, and move through both the wins and the road blocks with an understanding that you need time to dismantle the old, as well as to integrate the new.  Be proud of yourself for choosing something different, and celebrate the fact that you are continuing to move forward, despite the old programs that are trying to derail you. You are stronger than they are, but you also must bend a bit to allow them to affect you.  If you do nothing but fight constantly, you’ll wear yourself out.

Manifesting your dreams is a delicate balancing act.  You must move forward without pushing so hard that you exhaust yourself, but also keep enough momentum going to keep you at a steady pace.

Take the time to integrate and absorb the new you are moving towards.  Manifesting what you truly desire is not a huge jump from A-Z.  It’s a journey that you’ll look back on at different points in time,  and realize just how far you’ve come.

Slow and steady wins the race.