I am under the impression that this is a call-in show as well. 🙂
Join us! 6:30pm CST
I am under the impression that this is a call-in show as well. 🙂
Join us! 6:30pm CST
The healthiest relationships are those where both people are doing their personal growth work, and the amount of give and take feels relatively balanced. If you over-help everyone else at the expense of yourself, hoping for love and validation of your worth by what you can “do” for them, you’ve set up a toxic pattern. If you expect others to jump in and save you every time you face a challenge, you lose an opportunity to learn and grow.
We must all do the majority of our personal growth work. That work involves getting to know yourself and understanding your worth. You have worth by the mere fact that you exist. You do not have to prove that worth to anyone. If you feel as if you do, it is time to look at why you feel that way, and apply some love to that part of you after you’ve uncovered the misconception. You deserve to be treated with honor and respect, but you must be willing to honor and respect yourself before you’ll be able to recognize when you are being mistreated. When you begin to stand on your own two feet and love yourself, you will no longer agree to situations where others are dishonoring to you. You will develop the courage to say no to those people and situations that do not honor your being.
It is a process, as you have most likely picked up false concepts that have been on repeat in your subconscious for years. Be gentle with yourself, and celebrate every new victory where you’ve learned to stand in your power and love yourself.
It is possible that you may find yourself a bit lonely for awhile. Try to embrace, rather than to fear this period of time. This is your time to spend wonderful, quality time getting to know and love yourself. It is in this amazing time that you will build the foundations needed to bring new, healthy relationships into your life.
If you learned to be alone and really fallen in love with yourself, you will begin to give yourself all the things you gave away to others while expecting someone else to fill the cup you emptied. Our cups should runneth over, and we cannot give what we don’t have. So give, love, get to know, and fall in love with yourself first.
Remember to congratulate yourself for taking the first step toward a better life- a life in which the genuine love and respect you give others comes from a cup overflowing, and the love you receive is in line with what you’ve learned to give yourself.
You got this.
This is a continuation of my last post.
How do you get to know yourself, in order to be sure you manifest what you truly desire?
Take time for stillness, meditation, and contemplation each day, and get to know yourself in an intimate way. Learn from your feelings about things. What are they telling you? What are the deeper feelings under why you feel that way? What lights you up? What drains you? What makes you feel like you are moving towards something, and what makes you feel as if you are manifesting more of what you’re moving away from?
When you answer these questions and start to move forward, you should also be aware that many of your old subconscious beliefs (ones you are probably not aware of), will begin to rise to the surface. They will try to throw you off track, because you are trying to manifest the opposite of what they are telling you is possible for you to achieve. You soaked up these old tapes long ago, and they are most likely not applicable to what you are trying to create in this moment. Be gentle with them and yourself as you attempt to define, unravel, and dissolve them, they’ve been with you for a long time.
Give yourself grace, and move through both the wins and the road blocks with an understanding that you need time to dismantle the old, as well as to integrate the new. Be proud of yourself for choosing something different, and celebrate the fact that you are continuing to move forward, despite the old programs that are trying to derail you. You are stronger than they are, but you also must bend a bit to allow them to affect you. If you do nothing but fight constantly, you’ll wear yourself out.
Manifesting your dreams is a delicate balancing act. You must move forward without pushing so hard that you exhaust yourself, but also keep enough momentum going to keep you at a steady pace.
Take the time to integrate and absorb the new you are moving towards. Manifesting what you truly desire is not a huge jump from A-Z. It’s a journey that you’ll look back on at different points in time, and realize just how far you’ve come.
Slow and steady wins the race.
Why does manifesting our deepest desires seem to elude us so often?
I believe one of the major reasons for this can be traced to our attempt to achieve our deepest desires as adults in the same manner that we were trained to achieve success in school as children.
In school, if we did the assigned work and studied for the tests, we would most likely get our diploma or degree. If we really applied ourselves, we may even get great grades. In contrast, manifesting an incredible romantic partner or an amazing, abundant, and fulfilling career is a quite a different process. It’s not linear. There aren’t prescribed steps to take that will pretty much guarantee us the achievement we set out to obtain.
Our deepest desires and dreams are complex, and are something we are consciously choosing. Rather than completing a task society has set up for all of us to achieve pretty equally, we are creating our own path. Trying to continue to achieve our life dreams in the same way we excelled in school may not be the route that brings us our highest desires.
Manifesting our deepest desires involves a lot of inner work. Though we must do outer work as well, manifesting our deepest desires requires a little less ‘outer’ work than the diploma or degree and great grades did. Though we spent many years learning and perfecting the art of doing the outer work, for the most part, we haven’t been taught how to do the inner work.
In order to manifest our deepest desires and enjoy the feelings we really desire that are underneath the goal we are moving towards, we have to know what we want in the first place. This requires knowing who we are, and that requires a large dose of ‘inner work.’
So what is inner work, exactly? It’s meditation, contemplation, journaling, mindfulness, self-awareness, and personal responsibility for our choices and feelings– gooey, intangible stuff that we’ve barely scratched the surface of in the linear ‘outside’ work wold of academia. In order to be happy, whole adults, we must achieve the balance of inner and outer work, and from there we can create our dreams.
But the inner work must come first.
…To be continued in the next blog
Today’s post is another inspired writing, where I just write what comes, without much editing or proofreading. I hope it helps someone who may benefit from its message.
When the road is long and you are feeling weary
Change is around the corner.
When you feel like you’re gasping for air or that no one around you cares
Change is on the horizon.
Love is always here.
Even in your darkest days.
Believe in the power of love to heal hearts.
Believe there are better days coming.
You are part of the universe.
You are everything in the world.
And you love everything.
Joy is inevitable.
Even if you can’t see it right now.
Believe it is hidden
And it will be revealed.
You are so loved.
“I’m so proud of you- you’re going out there and making things happen!” I heard today in response to some recent wins. I was puzzled for a moment. It seems that our culture believes that the successes people achieve occurred because that person went out into the world and pressed all the right buttons to bring their goals to fruition. But I have a secret. The truth is, these people are CREATING their lives; not with all of the details figured out, but with a grander picture of what they wanted them to be, doing the work, and then TRUSTING the outcome.
In my particular case, I didn’t necessarily decide what I would be doing or who I would be doing it with, but rather put forth the intention of the feelings I desired from those things. I then trusted the universe to bring me the details in whatever form best fit into my dreams and desires. What I really did was tune in to my intuition and higher spiritual helpers (Whom I call God and my “team”) and asked for their help in creating my best life. I then followed their guidance, put in the work, and aligned myself with what they were calling for. I diligently showed up, did what was asked of me to the best of my abilities at the time, and then allowed for things to happen.
In case you are wondering, I did not have to give up my free will to that which is larger than me, but rather used my free will to choose these higher beings to guide me, because I realized that my life is exponentially better when I follow good leaders who have my best interests in mind. Of course the journey hasn’t always been easy, and many old things still come to the surface to try to sabotage my efforts, but I continue to listen and trust, even though I may not know exactly what the details of my goals will look like, or how long they will take to come to fruition.
Here’s the real secret to the goals people see me reaching, and the successes they see me enjoying—Once I listened to my “team,” showed up and did the work, and put out my intention (not necessarily always in that order), it was not me that then pressed the final button to MAKE things happen. That would have been like be going to a restaurant, putting in my order, and then going to the kitchen to make sure the chef is making it to my liking, and standing over him or her the entire time. In order to have an enjoyable, relaxing experience at my favorite restaurant, I must have an intention, show up and do what is required, order what I want, and then TRUST. In this example, I must make the money, bring the money, and then go to my favorite restaurant. I then have to sit down and order what I think will be a nourishing, healthy, and delicious meal, and then trust it to be delivered. I must trust that the server will deliver my order to the chef, and then must trust the chef to make it to my liking and dietary restrictions. Then once again I have to trust the server to bring me my meal. I don’t know exactly how long it will take, but I do know that if I relax and enjoy the process, I can most times trust that what I ordered, and did my part to manifest, will in fact be delivered.
Trust in your higher spiritual team and the universe. Show up, do the work, and then let it go.
All will be delivered in its right timing, if it’s for your highest good.
Here is another inspired writing from today. No edits, just raw musings from my morning writing. Sometimes it’s best to leave them that way, especially in blog form…
Love exists in many different ways at many different hours.
Love it timeless.
Love is a power greater than any of us can imagine.
Love can right wrongs.
Love can breathe life into things that have lost their breath but still have a spark left.
How do you tap into love?
Simply embrace the feeling, and it will flow. It will touch not only you, but everyone you come in contact with.
It can magnify bigger and bigger until it overtakes all lower energy feelings.
Love is what the world needs right now.