Using Intuition to Make Choices

Using Intuition to Make Choices

Unsure of what to do in uncertain times?

Perhaps you’ve spent your whole life following culture’s directions by the letter, thinking you were doing everything right, only to have it all vanish in a puff of smoke like some kind of strange magic trick.

Why aren’t the skills you were taught working anymore?  What do you do and who do you turn to when the culture that told you what you needed to get ahead no longer has any sense of direction itself?

Good times always come after bad times, and there’s always a gift to be found.  So if you weren’t one to give much attention or credibility to your own connection to that which is greater than you in the past, think of the present time as your golden opportunity to learn how to tune in!

So how do you tune in to your intuition?  It’s an abstract concept, so it’s not as easily grasped as the things we learn in academia that can be quantified or touched with our five senses.

Let’s look at love and gut feelings for a moment.  Don’t we all have those, even when they seem ridiculous, and the “facts” are clearly pointing in another direction?  But still, those feelings persist, and seem to know as much of what they are talking about as our heads and our “facts.”

I have been living by my higher guidance an intuition for many, many years now.  It all happened when I realized that I was trying to spin all the plates of my life in the air like a circus clown, and finally realized that I was not the one in control here, and I certainly had no idea of the bigger picture at hand.

And that’s when I learned to go within.  To surrender.  To put my higher power in charge of my direction, while I worked with it/them/my intuition as a partner.

I have often been asked over the years why I would give over my free will of all of life’s decisions to my higher power, and not have any control over my life.  The truth is that it’s quite the opposite.  Not only am I using my free will to make the choice to put my higher power/intuition/spiritual team in charge, but I am also not a silent partner.

Though I tune in and ask for direction on many things all day long, if something seems off to me or it can’t be done in the physical world the way I am being guided, I definitely will jump in and mention it.  It’s like having my higher power/intuition be the captain of my ship, but I am the first mate- and if by chance the captain misses a possible danger or obstacle- it is my responsibility to point it out and then work from there.

Since I have been living by intuition/divine guidance, I can’t even begin to count the  times in my life I have been amazed by how things came together to orchestrate an answer, healing, or solution to an issue- almost always in a way that far exceeded anything I thought I wanted it to look like.

I got off track a bit, and want to circle back around- so back to helping you with the “how” of learning to work with your intuition/higher power…

It is a bit like tuning a radio dial- the frequency is sometimes tough to get clearly, as there is lots of debris in the ethers at any given time, and plenty of other debris in our earthly minds and vessels that we have picked up over the years that may hamper our clarity when trying to “check in.”  There is also the matter of whether the guidance we are receiving (or think we are receiving) is from ego or something higher, benevolent or malevolent.

As you work with yourself and your guidance, you will find that your methods to fine tuning your connection will change over time, sometimes go out completely, and sometimes be muddled by other things.  Like anything, the more you practice, the better you will become.

Here’s a few quick-start tips:

Begin with meditation.  If you haven’t meditated before, I suggest starting with guided meditations (you can find many on youtube and otherwise) as they give your mind something to do.  When you are finished, try journaling.  Try having a conversation on paper or the computer with your higher power/intuition.  Ask your mind to take a backseat as you keep your consciousness open in order to receive.  Ask questions and then let your pen or fingers on the keys be free to write or type what is coming through, without you trying to control it, even if the answers seem counterintuitive to what your mind may think.

Keep it in the highest vibe.  In the beginning, it is best to ask whatever force you are talking to if it is benevolent, as there are trickster spirits that do love when people begin to open up to their connections again.  If you ask three times and get a yes, you are most likely talking to a benevolent being/your higher self.  Trickster spirits and lower energy beings can’t answer this question three times confidently.

Experiment.  Start with little decisions.  Use the meditation/journaling/asking process for small decisions and questions at first, and see how it works for you.  *Note* If you are in need of major decisions that cannot be answered in the way you are used to living, feel free to center yourself as much as possible and ask for help with those as well.  Better late than never.

It’s a process.  Though you may not have been taught how to honor and use your intuition/higher power to help guide you on a personal basis in your life previously, know that you can begin now.  The divine masculine and divine feminine (in this case intuition/spirit as a feminine energy and  action steps/decisions as a masculine energy) have always needed to work together to achieve the highest harmony and balance for all- it’s time to reclaim your divine birthright and inner GPS for life.

If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me or peruse my books, blog, website, facebook page, or youtube channel for further information and guidance. I hope this blog has given you hope for beginning to find answers to life’s hardest questions, and new direction in a world that has proven that honoring only one side of the picture may not bring you the answers you truly seek.

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Be well!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Conditioned Response

Conditioned Response

I started dusting a little while ago because I suddenly felt guided to.

As I began moving the decorations on the entertainment center in the living room to dust, one of my cats came bolting out of her favorite adjacent room and ran upstairs.

Why?

Conditioned Response.

She’s not afraid of my dusting. What she is afraid of is the vacuum. Historically, when I dust, the vacuum is soon to follow.

Now I’ve been low on energy for quite a while, and was only planning on dusting as that’s all I had the energy for today. I wasn’t going to vacuum. But, this creature whom I can’t communicate with in words to tell her that, has learned about the environments she lives in and how to predict them by observing them. Humans have words, but we don’t always think to use them to convey to people that we aren’t going to cause them the same harm that someone or something in their past did. And even if we did use them, it may not do any good as people often get triggered.

Familiar things start happening, a person’s conditioned response sets in, and fight or flight takes over.

At this point, even if we use our human words or emotions of love to reassure the person that we can be trusted and that the hurtful events of their past aren’t about to play out again- the triggered person is no longer open to this info. They are in protective mode.

The only thing they want to do at this point is run upstairs to avoid the vacuum, and in the heightened state they are in, they may also give us a piece of their mind on their way up there.

As humans, we have the power to dispel triggers and projections by doing the inner work necessary to help us separate one situation from another. We can discover through careful examination that though the details of the situation may seem strikingly similar to those in the situations where we were hurt previously, we need to take a deeper look into the intentions or emotional state of the person or thing that originally caused us harm. This is where we will find our answers.

We need to ask ourselves˗ are the motivations, true intentions, and overall emotional state of the current person the same as the person who harmed us in the past? It may take some digging and raw honesty, especially if we are still in the triggered state, to find the real answer. If we have done the work and know for certain that the answer is yes after fully processing and separating the initial incidents from this one˗ we may need to do something different or have every reason to want to protect ourselves.

But what happens if when we look as deep as we can go, we realize that the intentions of the current person and situation are not to harm us, and that in fact they won’t harm us (based on our previous history of interactions with that person), but rather that we are blocking intimacy with them because of the giant fearball we have placed between ourselves and any trust we have of them.

We got our cat as a stray. She was friendly but skittish, and we were certain that she had been someone’s indoor pet but had been traumatized in some way before she was probably thrown out or just let go. Because of this, she was distrustful of humans, through at the same time she craved our affection and love. Maybe a vacuum had hurt her in the past, and maybe the person operating it had intended to harm her (most likely as a result of their own inner demons that they couldn’t calm).

If she wants to fully let down her guard and enjoy her life with us, she will need to learn that we do not intend to harm her, and that we will not use an object (especially the one she has been conditioned to be afraid of) to harm her.

She must learn to separate the motives and intentions of the person in the past from the actions, motives, and intentions she has come to expect from us for the last few years in her present.
My question in all of this is here:

Is there somewhere in your life where you are so traumatized by the feelings and objects that were directed your way in a negative energy in the past, that you are not able to trust those who are not trying to hurt you in the present˗ though the details of the situation or object may seem the same?

Maybe it’s time to take a deeper look.

Struggling? It’s a normal part of the process-don’t judge yourself.

Struggling?  It’s a normal part of the process-don’t judge yourself.

Struggle is a completely normal part of life.

Though it is uncomfortable, and there are indeed stresses associated with it, I encourage you to hold yourself gently during this time and resist the urge to judge yourself.  You are trying to break through to the next level, and the path isn’t always linear, but you are showing up and doing what you can, whether or not you fall down.

When the internal chatter starts to show up, and you feel ashamed for whatever you are going through, try to remember that you need your own love most of all, and that there is NO SHAME in being where you are.

Remind and congratulate yourself for all the things that you have done well, and do what you can to find the answers you need.  Meditate (though it’s best to do this daily), journal (extra if you need to), reach out for help, and have a conversation with whatever you believe in that is bigger than you.

Just don’t judge yourself harshly for where you are.

Writing this for myself as much as I am for you.

 

LOVE

LOVE

(Another one from my “inspired writing, no editing” vault).

How do you know when love is true?

 

How does it feel to you?

Does it feel heavy?

Burdensome?

That’s not love.

 

Does it feel complicated, but hopeful, like people are trying their best?

That’s closer to love.

 

Love isn’t always easy to spot.

But if you look underneath the details, the message will be there.

 

Search the situation, see if there is love present.

If not, a change needs to be made somewhere.

 

Let love be the driving force of all of your interactions, whatever it ends up looking like on the surface.

Then you will always be centered and grounded in what is real.

 

Love is the only real force.

Everything else is an illusion.

Remember that.

I will be live tonight with David Clark on “Different Strokes for Different Folks”

I am under the impression that this is a call-in show as well. 🙂

Join us! 6:30pm CST

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/authordavidclarke/2017/12/15/merge-your-spiritual-and-physical-worlds-with-amanda-dobra-hope

 

 

How Loving Yourself Helps You to Attract Healthy Relationships With Others

How Loving Yourself Helps You to Attract Healthy Relationships With Others

The healthiest relationships are those where both people are doing their personal growth work, and the amount of give and take feels relatively balanced.  If you over-help everyone else at the expense of yourself, hoping for love and validation of your worth by what you can “do” for them, you’ve set up a toxic pattern.  If you expect others to jump in and save you every time you face a challenge, you lose an opportunity to learn and grow.

We must all do the majority of our personal growth work.  That work involves getting to know yourself and understanding your worth.  You have worth by the mere fact that you exist.  You do not have to prove that worth to anyone.  If you feel as if you do, it is time to look at why you feel that way, and apply some love to that part of you after you’ve uncovered the misconception.  You deserve to be treated with honor and respect, but you must be willing to honor and respect yourself before you’ll be able to recognize when you are being mistreated.  When you begin to stand on your own two feet and love yourself, you will no longer agree to situations where others are dishonoring to you.  You will develop the courage to say no to those people and situations that do not honor your being.

It is a process, as you have most likely picked up false concepts that have been on repeat in your subconscious for years.  Be gentle with yourself, and celebrate every new victory where you’ve learned to stand in your power and love yourself.

It is possible that you may find yourself a bit lonely for awhile.  Try to embrace, rather than to fear this period of time.  This is your time to spend wonderful, quality time getting to know and love yourself.  It is in this amazing time that you will build the foundations needed to bring new, healthy relationships into your life.

If you learned to be alone and really fallen in love with yourself, you will begin to give yourself all the things you gave away to others while expecting someone else to fill the cup you emptied.  Our cups should runneth over, and we cannot give what we don’t have.  So give, love, get to know, and fall in love with yourself first.

Remember to congratulate yourself for taking the first step toward a better life- a life in which the genuine love and respect you give others comes from a cup overflowing, and the love you receive is in line with what you’ve learned to give yourself.

You got this.

Why Eating Organic Doesn’t Have to Be Expensive

Why Eating Organic Doesn’t Have to Be Expensive

O.k., so I’m not one to post pictures of my dinner.  In fact, this is the first picture I’ve ever posted of what I’ve eaten, anywhere online.  But today I’m posting with a purpose.  As I looked at the lovely creation I had on my plate before I ate it, I remembered all of the people I’ve heard over the years say that they don’t eat organic because it’s too expensive.

Here’s the breakdown of my delicious, healthy, organic meal, with the perfect amount of protein for a vegetarian!

All of the items were bought at Publix (which can be a little pricey, you just have to search around and know where the good priced items are).

Organic Kale:  $1.99 for the bunch (I used 1/2 the bunch in my meal)

Organic Black Beans:  $1. 30 something for one can (I used 1/2 the can in my meal)

Organic Brown Rice; $1.59 a bag (Yeah, this is a great deal)!  (I used 1/4 of the bag)

It was also super easy to make, as I don’t particularly enjoy really involved or time consuming cooking or baking.  I started to prepare the rice, and a few minutes later, began to saute the kale in some organic olive oil I already had.  I then added in the black beans, waited for the rice to finish, added some sea salt, and presto, my amazing, healthy, organic meal was ready!

All for less than $2.00 for a full meal (minus the oil and salt), and I have at least one more identical meal I can make out of the leftovers of kale and beans.  (By the way, there was almost an entire plateful, I actually started eating it before I realized I should take a picture and make this post. 🙂