Why does manifesting our deepest desires seem to elude us so often?
I believe one of the major reasons for this can be traced to our attempt to achieve our deepest desires as adults in the same manner that we were trained to achieve success in school as children.
In school, if we did the assigned work and studied for the tests, we would most likely get our diploma or degree. If we really applied ourselves, we may even get great grades. In contrast, manifesting an incredible romantic partner or an amazing, abundant, and fulfilling career is a quite a different process. It’s not linear. There aren’t prescribed steps to take that will pretty much guarantee us the achievement we set out to obtain.
Our deepest desires and dreams are complex, and are something we are consciously choosing. Rather than completing a task society has set up for all of us to achieve pretty equally, we are creating our own path. Trying to continue to achieve our life dreams in the same way we excelled in school may not be the route that brings us our highest desires.
Manifesting our deepest desires involves a lot of inner work. Though we must do outer work as well, manifesting our deepest desires requires a little less ‘outer’ work than the diploma or degree and great grades did. Though we spent many years learning and perfecting the art of doing the outer work, for the most part, we haven’t been taught how to do the inner work.
In order to manifest our deepest desires and enjoy the feelings we really desire that are underneath the goal we are moving towards, we have to know what we want in the first place. This requires knowing who we are, and that requires a large dose of ‘inner work.’
So what is inner work, exactly? It’s meditation, contemplation, journaling, mindfulness, self-awareness, and personal responsibility for our choices and feelings– gooey, intangible stuff that we’ve barely scratched the surface of in the linear ‘outside’ work wold of academia. In order to be happy, whole adults, we must achieve the balance of inner and outer work, and from there we can create our dreams.
But the inner work must come first.
…To be continued in the next blog