Using Intuition to Make Choices

Using Intuition to Make Choices

Unsure of what to do in uncertain times?

Perhaps you’ve spent your whole life following culture’s directions by the letter, thinking you were doing everything right, only to have it all vanish in a puff of smoke like some kind of strange magic trick.

Why aren’t the skills you were taught working anymore?  What do you do and who do you turn to when the culture that told you what you needed to get ahead no longer has any sense of direction itself?

Good times always come after bad times, and there’s always a gift to be found.  So if you weren’t one to give much attention or credibility to your own connection to that which is greater than you in the past, think of the present time as your golden opportunity to learn how to tune in!

So how do you tune in to your intuition?  It’s an abstract concept, so it’s not as easily grasped as the things we learn in academia that can be quantified or touched with our five senses.

Let’s look at love and gut feelings for a moment.  Don’t we all have those, even when they seem ridiculous, and the “facts” are clearly pointing in another direction?  But still, those feelings persist, and seem to know as much of what they are talking about as our heads and our “facts.”

I have been living by my higher guidance an intuition for many, many years now.  It all happened when I realized that I was trying to spin all the plates of my life in the air like a circus clown, and finally realized that I was not the one in control here, and I certainly had no idea of the bigger picture at hand.

And that’s when I learned to go within.  To surrender.  To put my higher power in charge of my direction, while I worked with it/them/my intuition as a partner.

I have often been asked over the years why I would give over my free will of all of life’s decisions to my higher power, and not have any control over my life.  The truth is that it’s quite the opposite.  Not only am I using my free will to make the choice to put my higher power/intuition/spiritual team in charge, but I am also not a silent partner.

Though I tune in and ask for direction on many things all day long, if something seems off to me or it can’t be done in the physical world the way I am being guided, I definitely will jump in and mention it.  It’s like having my higher power/intuition be the captain of my ship, but I am the first mate- and if by chance the captain misses a possible danger or obstacle- it is my responsibility to point it out and then work from there.

Since I have been living by intuition/divine guidance, I can’t even begin to count the  times in my life I have been amazed by how things came together to orchestrate an answer, healing, or solution to an issue- almost always in a way that far exceeded anything I thought I wanted it to look like.

I got off track a bit, and want to circle back around- so back to helping you with the “how” of learning to work with your intuition/higher power…

It is a bit like tuning a radio dial- the frequency is sometimes tough to get clearly, as there is lots of debris in the ethers at any given time, and plenty of other debris in our earthly minds and vessels that we have picked up over the years that may hamper our clarity when trying to “check in.”  There is also the matter of whether the guidance we are receiving (or think we are receiving) is from ego or something higher, benevolent or malevolent.

As you work with yourself and your guidance, you will find that your methods to fine tuning your connection will change over time, sometimes go out completely, and sometimes be muddled by other things.  Like anything, the more you practice, the better you will become.

Here’s a few quick-start tips:

Begin with meditation.  If you haven’t meditated before, I suggest starting with guided meditations (you can find many on youtube and otherwise) as they give your mind something to do.  When you are finished, try journaling.  Try having a conversation on paper or the computer with your higher power/intuition.  Ask your mind to take a backseat as you keep your consciousness open in order to receive.  Ask questions and then let your pen or fingers on the keys be free to write or type what is coming through, without you trying to control it, even if the answers seem counterintuitive to what your mind may think.

Keep it in the highest vibe.  In the beginning, it is best to ask whatever force you are talking to if it is benevolent, as there are trickster spirits that do love when people begin to open up to their connections again.  If you ask three times and get a yes, you are most likely talking to a benevolent being/your higher self.  Trickster spirits and lower energy beings can’t answer this question three times confidently.

Experiment.  Start with little decisions.  Use the meditation/journaling/asking process for small decisions and questions at first, and see how it works for you.  *Note* If you are in need of major decisions that cannot be answered in the way you are used to living, feel free to center yourself as much as possible and ask for help with those as well.  Better late than never.

It’s a process.  Though you may not have been taught how to honor and use your intuition/higher power to help guide you on a personal basis in your life previously, know that you can begin now.  The divine masculine and divine feminine (in this case intuition/spirit as a feminine energy and  action steps/decisions as a masculine energy) have always needed to work together to achieve the highest harmony and balance for all- it’s time to reclaim your divine birthright and inner GPS for life.

If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me or peruse my books, blog, website, facebook page, or youtube channel for further information and guidance. I hope this blog has given you hope for beginning to find answers to life’s hardest questions, and new direction in a world that has proven that honoring only one side of the picture may not bring you the answers you truly seek.

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Be well!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Shame- Which Kinds are Productive and Which Kinds are Unproductive-And How to Tell the Difference

Shame- Which Kinds are Productive and Which Kinds are Unproductive-And How to Tell the Difference

 

This blog post speaks to both women and men, but I do wish to point out the fact that this topic is especially relevant to women as a whole, given our generational upbringing.  Therefore, if both genders would please excuse that hypothesis in the first paragraph only, there is some deep wisdom on the topic here that can be gained by all of us.

Women as a whole carry a disproportionate amount of shame.  So much of it isn’t even ours to carry, but because we are conditioned to just do what needs to be done, and meet other’s needs, we take it on in order to ease another’s burden.  As time goes on, we learn to take it on in all sorts of unproductive ways, opening the door and letting it in over and over again.  We become accustomed to just leaving the door wide open to welcome shame, without ever stopping to ask ourselves if it is even  ours, if we need to let it in, or if it is a desired constant houseguest.

How many of us carry shame from our families of origin, both others’ true shame, and also for things no one actually needed to feel shame for?  It might be shame that was actually another member of the family’s to carry.  But no matter, we picked it up and threw it on our backs out of purpose, or maybe even blame, because another family member couldn’t take responsibility for their own actions.  On the other side of the coin, perhaps the shame stemmed from failure to succeed in one way or another; unproductive shame that was not anyone’s to rightfully carry, but continued to be passed on throughout the generations.

Shame is useful when it makes us think twice before doing unkind or unethical things.  It is also useful when it causes someone who made a mistake to take responsibility, make amends, and change their behavior.  Because our society is not set up to handle atonement and reconciliation in ways that aren’t doused in excessive shame, however, productive shame is many times too large for a person to be able to take on.  But when someone refuses to take responsibility for their behavior because either the shame or threat of shame is too great, often times we pick some of it up to ease their burden and lighten their load.

Although this may seem noble, where then does this shame go?  This unproductive shame is stored in our individual unconscious, and sometimes then the collective unconscious, and keeps us from being our full, shiny, capable selves.  It also takes away an opportunity for the person whose shame it is to take responsibility for their actions and heal themselves and anyone they may have hurt. Perhaps a better idea would be to create a healthier system where atonement and reconciliation are handled in ways that aren’t doused in excessive shame (but more on that in a later discussion).

Shame that isn’t ours to carry holds us back from bringing our true gifts into the world, as we are afraid of what we will look like if we fail.  In addition to shame that isn’t ours to carry, shame from failure to achieve a goal is also a form of unproductive shame.  It doesn’t serve a useful purpose, and we don’t have to say yes to it.  Just like shame for being different than others, having a physical or mental challenge, or any other form of not seeming to be ‘right’ by certain societal standards, shame from failure is not real shame, and only robs ourselves and society of the unique gifts we are here to offer.

Failure is not a productive reason to feel shame.  Failure means we stepped outside our comfort zone and tried to bring into form something we were lead by our soul to follow.  Failure means we’re on the right track. Failure means we tried.  And many times failure is caused by things that were completely outside of our control.  The only true failure in this example is to not rise up again and continue to follow the path we know is true, even when it deals us challenges.  These ‘failures,’ just like any other ways we may not seem to be acceptable by society, are not reasons to feel shame, they are merely opportunities to strengthen our relationship with ourselves by choosing whether or not we’re going to allow them to add more shame to the disproportionate amount we are already carrying, and whether or not we are going to let them define our worth.

Our worth can only be taken from us if we choose to deem ourselves unworthy.  It is always our choice.

If someone overpowered you in the past because of their lack of self-worth, do not let that diminish yours.  They were trying to steal from you what could never truly work for them.  It’s like someone other than the chosen person trying to steal and use the sword in the stone in order to fill themselves with worth and power.  It will never work.  Power and worth that are not cultivated on the inside and from the deep knowing that we are not separate from all that is, will never last.  It will never satiate the hunger someone’s soul feels from not being secure in their own worth, for not saying ‘yes’ to themselves.

So it seems to me that we have three choices when it comes to being faced with the tendency to take on shame for unproductive reasons:  we can diminish ourselves, shrink down and hide, and deem ourselves less worthy; we can try to get it off of us by acting out against someone or something else and attempting to transfer it to them; or we can just say, “No thank you.” when presented with the choice to take it in or not.

Unproductive shame hurts all of us, and we don’t have to continue to say yes to it.

#youareworthy  #stopthemadness  #riseup  #truepower  #beyoutiful

 

 

A Quick Look at “Will”

A Quick Look at “Will”

Free Write- Topic: The Will

Will

You can bend it, break it, and strengthen it.

It can move you forward, or keep you stuck in place.

Many use it forcefully, and try to overpower that of others.

Strengthen your will by learning that we are all part of the same universe.

Some may think they can take or use more power than they should, but this is not real power.

Surrender your will to the understanding that you are a part of the whole universe, and your individual power will strengthen in a sustainable manner.

You are powerful.

Insert yourself into the greater flow and use your will to enhance the life experience of all you are connected to, and you will thrive as well.

How to REALLY Achieve Your Dreams, Including Those You Didn’t Even Know You Had!

How to REALLY Achieve Your Dreams, Including Those You Didn’t Even Know You Had!

“I’m so proud of you- you’re going out there and making things happen!”  I heard today in response to some recent wins.  I was puzzled for a moment.  It seems that our culture believes that the successes people achieve occurred because that person went out into the world and pressed all the right buttons to bring their goals to fruition.  But I have a secret.  The truth is, these people are CREATING their lives; not with all of the details figured out, but with a grander picture of what they wanted them to be, doing the work, and then TRUSTING the outcome.

In my particular case, I didn’t necessarily decide what I would be doing or who I would be doing it with, but rather put forth the intention of the feelings I desired from those things.  I then trusted the universe to bring me the details in whatever form best fit into my dreams and desires.  What I really did was tune in to my intuition and higher spiritual helpers (Whom I call God and my “team”) and asked for their help in creating my best life.  I then followed their guidance, put in the work, and aligned myself with what they were calling for.  I diligently showed up, did what was asked of me to the best of my abilities at the time, and then allowed for things to happen.

In case you are wondering,  I did not have to give up my free will to that which is larger than me, but rather used my free will to choose these higher beings to guide me, because I realized that my life is exponentially better when I follow good leaders who have my best interests in mind.  Of course the journey hasn’t always been easy, and many old things still come to the surface to try to sabotage my efforts, but I continue to listen and trust, even though I may not know exactly what the details of my goals will look like, or how long they will take to come to fruition.

Here’s the real secret to the goals people see me reaching, and the successes they see me enjoying—Once I listened to my “team,” showed up and did the work, and put out my intention (not necessarily always in that order),  it was not me that then  pressed the final button to MAKE things happen.  That would have  been like be going to a restaurant, putting in my order, and then going to the kitchen to make sure the chef is making it to my liking, and standing over him or her the entire time.  In order to have an enjoyable, relaxing experience at my favorite restaurant, I must have an intention, show up and do what is required, order what I want, and then TRUST.   In this example, I must make the money, bring the money, and then go to my favorite restaurant.  I then have to sit down and order what I think will be a nourishing, healthy, and delicious meal, and then trust it to be delivered.  I must trust that the server will deliver my order to the chef, and then must trust the chef to make it to my liking and dietary restrictions.  Then once again I have to trust the server to bring me my meal.  I don’t know exactly how long it will take, but I do know that if I relax and enjoy the process, I can most times trust that what I ordered, and did my part to manifest, will in fact be delivered.

Trust in your higher spiritual team and the universe.  Show up, do the work, and then let it go.

All will be delivered in its right timing, if it’s for your highest good.

Joy

Joy

Here’s another inspired writing…

JOY

Be willing to see it and feel it bursting out of you.

Fall into it as you would a refreshing pool on a hot summer day.

Joy will catch you, just as the water in the pool, and is waiting to fill you with its magic.  You will feel refreshed and rejuvenated.

Be willing to allow yourself to experience joy.

Ecstatic joy with no holding back.

Exuberant, overwhelming joy, in its purest and deepest form.

Allow it to catch you as you fall back into its splendor- and know yourself as worthy of the abundant excitement you will feel as it soaks into your entire being- mind, body, and spirit.

Know and allow joy- As much as you have known and allowed yourself to feel and re-feel the effects of pain, loss, grief, abuse, and regret.

Let joy be the elixir that washes your soul clean of those past hurts.

Renewal is at hand.

If you only decide to allow joy.